Stress: A new Prescription
from 'Why stress doesn't exist' by Dr Robert Maurer in the current issue of Men's Health
When highly successful men describe the challenges of life, they seldom
use the word 'stress'. Instead they refer to'fear'. Why do they describe
it like this? Being 'scared' is the language of children, but they're
not afraid to use these words. This isn't a sign of immaturity or weakness,
it's honesty, and this is the first step to recovery. Here's how to take
FACE YOUR FEARS
Children never say they're "anxious about monsters under the bed"
or "stressed about thunder". Rather, they recognise they can't
control the world and acknowledge the resulting anxiety for what it truly
is: fear. In order to learn how to handle it better, they engage it by
watching scary movies or dressing as monsters at Halloween. Rather than
push the emotion out of their minds as adults often do, they learn to
understand and, ultimately, handle it.
But there's another facet to this. The fight or flight alarm system we
all carry was designed to sound, create a response, and then shut down.
When a deer is scared, it runs. When a lion is frightened, it attacks.
But when a man is afraid, he leaves his alarm system on, and the consequences
can be deadly.
Do you see the logic? The symptoms you're assessing as stress
are actually normal, healthy signals from a body faced with a life challenge
(positive or negative). Our masculine culture values stoicism, self reliance
and independence, but what your body actually craves is to lean on others
and draw strength and comfort from them.